Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child 關(guān)于父母打孩子的棍棒教育

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Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child

There has long been a view among Chinese that "Spare the rod, spoil the child". How did this point form and spread through China＇s long history may cause my curiosity. However,what really interests me is whether this viewpoint is still worthy of adoption in our modern society.

For one thing, such "rod using" education mode has no possibility of achieving the goal of education:the forming of a child＇s judgment on right and wrong as well as the developing of a child＇s self-control ability. Children are always inquisitive and destructive, tearing up books, throwing down vases and etc,which will make you feel rather angry. Punish them or explain to them, you are faced up with a choice. In fact, whichever method you choose, it will be effective at that time. The only difference is that the former one works on children＇s fear of penalty and the latter one on their realization of mistakes. Fears disappearing quickly, children are likely to repeat their wrong activities if you only punish them. Once learning why they are wrong and knowing what is allowed and what is banned, the children may avoid making the same mistakes in the future. And little by little,children＇s judging ability will be developed. So in the long run,pointing out the mistakes and what is permitted seem more wise.

Similarly, such "penalty emphasizing" education mode,which somewhat seems a bit violent, harms children＇s growth and the forming of their characters. "Many adults＇ mental diseases have close relationship with their childhood＇s penalty", psychiatrists say on a large number of researches. Furthermore,such education mode may result in children＇s rebellious temperaments or too timid and weak characters. Additionally, this mode will widen the gap between two generations. With all these unexpected results, we would better think deeply over this education mode.

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Making friends, in some sense, resembles enjoying music. I never choose bright music whenever I am blue, because the sentimental melody soothes my tense nerve and assures me that I am understood and cared and not alone in this toughest time, and because I will feel strengthened when someone can grieve at my grief.

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昔日好友各奔前程，不同的背景和經(jīng)歷改變著彼此，這份友誼還能和從前一樣嗎?本文很自然地從回憶親身經(jīng)歷說起，既而提出論點(diǎn)：真正的友誼應(yīng)該以共同的志向、愛好、觀點(diǎn)為依托，以彼此的了解、信任、坦誠和無私為支柱。所以作者認(rèn)為，各方面與自己效和有益于孩子身心健康的教育方式。具體如何，沒有指明，但其觀點(diǎn)已隱含于文中，即第二段結(jié)尾：向孩子指出錯誤所在及什么應(yīng)該做什么不應(yīng)該做。該文用較短的篇幅成功地表達(dá)了反對棍棒教育的觀點(diǎn)，是一篇好文章。作者比較注意詞語的多樣性，如對此教育方式分別使用棍棒教育(rod using)和強(qiáng)調(diào)懲罰(penalty emphasizing)表示，生動形象。