雙語閱讀：找到一位戀人將失去兩位好友
Expensive: The cost of finding love is, on average, two inner circle friends, scientists have found.
Ever found yourself dumped by a friend embarking ona romance? Don't worry, you're probably not the only one. For according to Oxford University scientists, every time we start a relationship we jettisontwo of our closest friends.
你是否曾發現自己在開始一段戀情的時候被朋友拋棄？不必擔心，你很可能不是唯一一個遭遇這種事情的人。因為按照牛津大學科學家的說法，我們每開始一段感情，就會拋棄兩位最親密的朋友。
Most of us simply don't have enough time for intimate friendships with more than four or five people, their research shows.
他們的研究顯示，我們當中的大多數人根本沒有足夠的時間和四五個以上的人保持親密的友誼關系。
And a new love interest leads to two friends being pushed out of the inner circle.
而且，對新戀人的關注會使兩位朋友被疏遠。
Professor Robin Dunbar, one of Britain's leading experts in evolutionary biology, explained: 'If you go into a romantic relationship it actually costs you two friends in that inner core of relationships.
英國進化生物學權威專家之一羅賓 鄧巴教授解釋說：“如果你投入到一段戀情中，你就會失去情感圈內的兩位朋友。”
'Instead of having the typical five friends, they only have four in that inner circle. And bearing in mind that one of those is the new person that has come into your life, it means you have to give up two others.'
“在那個圈內，你擁有的不再是往常的五位朋友，而是四位。同時記住，其中一位是剛走進你生活的新成員，這意味著你必須放棄另外兩個。”
Men tend to have four or five intimate friends, women five or six, he said.
他說，男性一般有四到五個好友，而女性有五到六個好友。
However, men were just as likely to jettison friends at the start of a new romantic attachment as women, found the study of those aged 18 to 60.
盡管如此，該研究發現，同女性一樣，在一段新戀情開始之際，男性也會拋棄一些朋友。該研究涵蓋了年齡從18歲到60歲的人群。
'Your attention is so wholly focused on the romantic partners, you just don't get to see the other folks you had a lot to do withbefore,' the professor told the British Science Festival in Birmingham. 'Those relationships start to deteriorate.'
鄧巴教授在伯明翰的英國科學節上講道：“你的注意力完全集中到戀人身上，而忽視了之前跟你關系很密切的其他人，于是這些關系就開始疏遠。”
But it's not just romance that can push out close friends, he explained. Children or buying a dog can have the same effect.
他解釋說，不過，并非只有戀情會將好友擠出圈外。孩子或新買的寵物狗也會如此。
'You can only have five slotsfor deeply intense and meaningful relations. Those individuals don't have to be human. They can be your dog - or your favourite chrysanthemumplant. They can be people in an entirely fictional world - they can be soap opera characters. They can be God or they can be saints.'
“你只有五個位置來安放深厚、強烈而又重要的感情關系。這些個體不一定非得是人，他們可以是你的小狗，或是你最喜愛的菊花。他們可以是純虛構的世界里的人，可以是肥皂劇里的人物。他們也可以是上帝或圣人。”
Vocabulary:
embark on:從事，著手，開始（新的或艱難的事情）
jettison:to get rid of something/somebody that you no longer need or want（擺脫；拋棄）
have a lot to do with:與……有很大聯系
deteriorate:to become worse（變壞；惡化；退化）
slot:a position, a time or an opportunity for somebody/something（位置，時間，機會）
chrysanthemum:a large, brightly coloured garden flower that is shaped like a ball and made up of many long narrow petals（菊花）
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