永遠的關系
Relationship that Lasts'
if somebody tells you， “ i'll love you for ever，” will you believe it？
i don't think there's any reason not to. we are ready to believe such commitment at the moment， whatever change may happen afterwards. as for the belief in an everlasting love， that's another thing.
then you may be asked whether there is such a thing as an everlasting love. i'd answer i believe in it. but an everlasting love is not immutable.
you may unswervingly love or be loved by a person. but love will change its composition with the passage of time. it will not remain the same. in the course of your growth and as a result of your increased experience， love will become something different to you.
in the beginning you believed a fervent love for a person could last indefinitely. by and by， however，“ fervent” gave way to “ prosaic” . precisely because of this change it became possible for love to last. then what was meant by an everlasting love would eventually end up in a sort of interdependence.
we used to insist on the difference between love and liking. the former seemed much more beautiful than the latter. one day， however， it turns out there's really no need to make such difference. liking is actually a sort of love.by the same token， the everlasting interdependence is actually an everlasting love.
i wish i could believe there was somebody who would love me for ever. that's， as we all know， too romantic to be true. instead， it will more often than not be a case of lasting relationship.
假如有人對你說，我永遠愛你，你是否會相信呢？
我想不到有什么理由不相信。無論將來變成怎樣，那一刻，我們會愿意相信這個承諾。是否相信有永遠的愛，那又是另一回事。
你也許永遠愛一個人，或永遠被一個人所愛。但是，愛的成分會在年月中改變。愛不是只有一樣。當你成長，當你經歷愈來愈多的事情，你對愛的體會也會不一樣了。
從前所相信的永遠，是永遠熾熱地愛一個人。后來的永遠，也許是從熾熱走到平淡。因為平淡，才可以更長久。然后，所謂永遠，有一天又會變成互相依存。
我們曾經堅持把愛和喜歡分開。愛是比喜歡美麗許多的。終有一天，我們開始相信，不必把喜歡和愛分開。喜歡也是一種愛。正如，永遠的依存，也是永遠的愛。
我希望我能夠相信一個人永遠地愛我。可是， 我們都知道，那只是過于浪漫的想法。永遠的關系，反而更有可能。
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