機智 Tact

 做任何事情都有適當、不適當的時機，機智就是要在適當時機做適當的事和說適當的話。機智和禮節有很密切的關系，一個人不可能只具備其中一種而缺少另一種特質，機智是一項無價的處世技巧，表現機智和缺乏機智，同樣會讓人看得見。There is a right moment and a wrong moment for everything.Tact is the habit of doing and saying the right thing at the right moment.Tact is so closely related to courtesy that you cannot practice one without the other.It is an invaluable skill,just as noticeable for its absence as for its presence. 以下是缺乏機智時最常發生的情況：Here is a list of the most common ways people show their lack of tact: 1．不注意自己說話的語氣，經常以不悅而且對立的語氣說話。1.Carelessness in their tone of voice,often speaking in gruff,antagonistic tones. 2．應該保持沉默的時候偏偏愛說話。2.Speaking out of turn,when silence would be more appropriate. 3．打斷別人的話。3.Interrupting others who are speaking. 4．濫用人稱代詞。以至在每個句子中都用“我”這個字。4.Overworking the personal pronoun so that every sentence features the word"I". 5．以傲慢的態度提出問題，給人一種只有他最重要的印象。5.Asking impertinent questions,often to impress others with their own importance. 6．在談話中插入一些和自己有親密關系，但卻會使別人感到不好意思的話題。6.Injecting intimately personal subjects into the conversations when such subjects are embarrassing to others. 7．不請自來。7.Going where they have not been invited. 8．自吹自擂。8.Boastfulness 9．嘲笑社會上的穿著規范。9.Flouting social norms in matters of attire. 10．在不適當時刻打電話。10.Making calls at inconvenient hours 11．在電話中談一些別人不想聽的無聊話。11.Holding people on the telephone with needless conversations. 12．對不熟悉的人寫一封內容過分親密的信。12.Writing letters that are overly familiar to people they hardly know. 13．不管自己了不了解，而任意對任何事情發表意見。13.Volunteering unsolicited opinions on any subject under the sun,without regard to their knowledge. 14．公然質問他人意見的可靠性。14.Openly questioning the soundness of others' opinions. 15．以傲慢的態度拒絕他人的要求。15.Declining requests from others in an arrogant manner. 16．在別人的朋友面前說一些瞧不起他的話。16.Speaking disparagingly of people in front of their friends. 17．指責和自己意見不同的人。17.Rebuking people who disagree with them. 18．評論別人的無能力。18.Commenting on people's disabilities. 19．當著他人的面，指正部后和同事的錯誤。19.Correcting subordinates and colleagues in the presence of others. 20．請求別人幫忙被拒絕后心生抱怨。20.Complaining when requests for favors are refused. 21．利用友誼請求幫助。21.Presuming upon friendship in asking for favors 22．措詞不敬或具有攻擊性。22.Using profane or offensive language 23．當場表示不喜歡。23.Expressing dislikes at a drop of a hat 24．老是想著不幸或痛苦的事情。Dwelling on ills or misfortunes 25．對政治或宗教發出抱怨。25.Complaining about politics or religion 26．表現過親密的行為。26.Displaying general overfamiliarity 如果你認為這些都是一些小缺點的話，那就錯了。因為 這些缺點的混合速度是非?？斓?你愿意和平常就顯露出三“種缺點的人交往嗎?這些缺點意味著，缺乏感受和細心體諒 的能力，并且會使人對這種人的智慧產生懷疑，任何想要培 養具吸引力個性的人，都應遠離這些缺點。If these faults seem small to you,consider how quickly they compound one another.Would you want to be associated with someone who displayed just three of them regularly? They reveal a lack of perception and careful consideration that undermines one's confidence in another's mental powers. Anyone who desires an attractive personality will avoid them all.